This is about people acting as rational agents in their own lives and taking responsibility for their own choices. No. The Ontario Family Law Podcast explores what influences #judges. But , in my case it is the father , my ex and has been going on for 14 years since my son was born , what then and howdo or can I prove this ?? If you wish to discuss matters free of sarcasm or unacceptable hyperbole – such as I ‘abuse’ people – then I hope I am always willing to enter into discussions in good faith. The orders were dismissed, but a couple of days before the last hearing, my spouse had requested the occupancy order was removed. It isn’t rocket science, early intervention needs investment (from our taxes) but it saves money in the long term as well as the human cost. The answer is undoubtedly yes the system is biased against men, especially when it comes to finances. They report false evidence and other unlawfulness but are ignored. I agree family courts are very biased against men and don’t take hard line on mothers denying access to their children. I hope I don’t ever give the impression that ‘the system’ is just fine. A mother can choose with impunity to indulge in alienating behaviour, often with no sanction. Then we can draw attention to common malpractices and persuade them to pay more attention to procedures. I’m just imagining all those babies in test conditions getting ‘dosages’ of abuse and neglect under controlled conditions by people watching with clipboards who then can see cause and effect with regular scans to compare with a non-abused and non neglected control group…. The problem is that the smallest emanation of annoyance or anxiety such as a change of intonation in ones voice can too easily tip the scales in a family court which is already against you .It’s not fair but its just the way it is,i’m afraid. But I hope you can find some resolution. There are many reasons for this, notably that it is the woman who gives birth, it is the woman who is likely to earn less than the man who impregnated her. that ‘I don’t do nappies’ – they express revulsion and horror at the idea of poo! Because it has only one judge, basically. Men have taken the challenge to change and evolve and they are truely embracing it. They are seen as low status and boring. Lastly, I am currently researching early child emotional abuse and neglect and the consequent damage to brain structure and development. You do not have to apologise. Sadly I have to edit this post following my Twitter conversation on 19/03/17 with Peter who appeared to be relying on what I published as ‘expert advice’ that men could simply attend a school and remove their children without consulting the child’s mother or asking her permission. Therefore on this EARTH it is the job of lawyers to put it right ! To which my mother replied “No mother would……..blah blah” Once I pointed out the societal impunity offered to mothers that she had just admitted to, her eyes were opened and she realised what she had just said and done. It’s the job of a criminal court. I understand. No wonder there are so many Father suicides, authorities, systems and politics are all biased towards women. He further states that even with best practices, new Rules, technology and scheduling initiatives, the Court is buckling under the strain of our mounting responsibilities to the people and families. already commented on accusations that I am ‘sexist’ in this post. Once born, that child is entitled to support from the adults who made him/her and the court will enforce that. I accept there are failings in the system but ‘the system’ does not cause adult relationships to break down and ‘the system’ cannot be the glue that mends those relationships. But alongside this must come cultural shifts about how men and women are viewed. Please feel free. A clever woman will recognise trigger situations and keep her mouth shut more for his sake as well as her own. The Courts are not ‘pandering’ to Mum because of gender but because it has already been decided that she is to be the main -carer which translates into allowing her to call the tune and organise contacts as she wishes henceforth. A judge does not ‘believe’ – a judge makes findings of fact on the balance of probabilities. But if you go down the path, in high conflict situations, of insisting on YOUR rights being exercised in face of opposition from the other parent, I can predict with near absolute certainty that your future looks bleak, in terms of any hope for resolving your difficulties and co-parenting in harmony. 80% of women receive custody of children following the collapse of the relationship. During my reading I have looked for any slips or trips that someone might be displaying gender bias. I just published a book . It is a shame and we should all be ashamed, particularly those who have consistently voted for a cruel government. Just one example I can think of; when men return home from work , some of them are programmed to expect their dinner on the table and their slippers by the fire all ready and prepared for his comfort after a long, hard day. I hope no-one denies that women are more important to families in the grand scheme of things and should be respected. Which is why I will continue to assert that the true ‘answer’ here is to empower our children to love and nurture themselves, maintain their self esteem and only enter into relationships for the right reasons; not out of fear, or loneliness or apathy. As I said, ny daughter is lucky as she now sees both parents. That is the main purpose of the Children Act. I had been thinking and worrying about it for a while. My ex abandoned our 7 week old in the hall way of my house 6 hours before I was off work. If you use linked-in to scrape the family court justices (you will need a paid account to get the data) and then use the Twitter, Facebook and other (reddit, offtopic, etc…) social media to cross-link the justices against their social opinions, judicial ruling (state-by-state public rulings are available from each state’s public information sources) the bias trends are overwhelmingly against your personal opinion. She said she was taking the children and that was that. Girls should be much more careful about going out with men alone and men should be taught moral, gentlemanly values including not to sow their wild oats with abandon as currently seems to be encouraged .Wait until the wedding before having children. It brutalises people, I can see that. The police officers allowed her to leave with them no questions asked. Urgent appeals in cases where the court orders removal of a child. More out of court than in. Oh yes – corrupt family lawyers. As far as proportionality is concerned,whilst it may be acceptable for a mother to regard shouting as abusive even when there is no real physical evidence nor records of it kept, any court would have to examine facts carefully and differentiate as to different levels of abuse or it will leave itself open to allegations of bias against men. court buildings are poorly designed and don’t help parents talk to one another at court or feel comfortable in the court room; tensions remain high, The government has removed legal aid from private law cases and created a situation where mothers are encouraged to make allegations of violence against fathers to secure funding. I am merely pointing out that our gender bias problems are a societal problem that start at the very beginning, which get way out of control by the end when it all falls apart. It is sad that men ( particularly the working-class) seem to have lost the basic training to act as ‘gentlemen’ which used to be passed down from father to son. ” Isn’t this what happens every time a judge believes allegations of violence from a mother and makes a non-mol order or fails to enforce a “contact” order without any investigation? Thank you very much. The men should reform their behaviour . It is a massive part of the problem that access to justice is becoming unaffordable for many, I agree. men should be tried by a PROPER court and if he is found guilty, he should be punished severely and possibly imprisoned if proportionate to circumstances. But I hope I am a ‘good enough’ parent now. I was awarded 300 a month in child support and she was awarded 659 dollars a month in alimony, needless to say I never got a dime of the child support so I decided to withhold it from the allimony and then take her back to court to have the alimony adjusted to reflect the deduction. where they left them. Problem is that no lawyer will open up and admit it (despite my repeated comments about it). While we have this ridiculous attitude that violent men must be appeased and contained, we will continue to have problems. He persisted in attacking me in court and used with CAFCASS, my mother’s difficulties whom suffered with SZ and had lost custody of me as a child to my father and stepmother. If the woman has been the main carer ,likewise but if the woman goes out to work full time and the man has been the main carer then the Judge can make orders accordingly. Jerry, I expect you to disagree with my ideas about a man having a right to regular contacts when the children live with Mum so can you persuade me different? I don’t however agree that Judges often just ‘try to keep mum happy’. He or she will exercise their discretion and ordain that it would have made little differece to the outcome anyway. Another good example of engrained gender bias comes from my beloved mother. Why should he have to prove himself as a parent? And what if anything can we do about it? Hi You consistently insult parents when you suggest some parents treat them as mere chattels. these issues get so muddied by the passage of time, the length of time people remain in relationships or leave and go back and the fact that usually the only people who really know what is going on are the two people in the relationship itself. As a mother, I instructed a solicitor to apply for residency after being the primary carer (and I am keen to define primary carer) for my children for 9 and 12 years. Unsurprisingly Angelo, I don’t consider condemning violent people as having ‘low standards’ Yes, an unusual outcome – but becoming less so. In this day and age and historically , most men are able to control themselves. I can also tell you of many women left in poverty after men impregnated them and then disappeared. I was only permitted to call the child on the phone between certain times, and there was never any sanction on the mother if she was ‘out” or if she chose to have the TV on at high volume during our conversations (as she often did), or if she decided to be difficult with regard to my “visitation”. as I keep repeating – I hear men often saying that the courts are biased against men and hate them. It is now becoming apparent that child emotional abuse or neglect, is just as serious and perhaps even more serious than all the other types of abuse. Well-meaning though they might be, they cannot physically restrain a man and reform him neither are they interested in doing so. Shortly after he was able to sort out his employment situation and even got promoted. There’s a gender bias towards fathers being equally involved with their children let alone being resident parents. Honestly, this was a waste of our time Sarah. I would decide on facts as a divorce judge does. Are the family courts biased against men? Guess who gets paid first by the state….Judges…..So yes there is collusion, fraud, and bias because most of the time not always the father makes the most money. ), (It must be noted that A has had three previous relationships that have broken down acrimoniously). QUOTE: I don’t agree there is a ‘negative bias’ towards males but I do think the preponderance of female personnel in the system can put men at a disadvantage because women tend to react differently to what men may see as ‘just letting off steam’ for eg. Because of this, he had to move out of a studio apartment he just got back to his car. There seems to be the perception that I simply an not entitled to move on in the same way that my ex wife is. As you know, my point is that these are never legal problems and the police and criminal sanctions are often of limited help. They would bide their time also until they could afford children and the husband went on full adult pay at twenty-one. I have had problems with schools refusing to recognise me as ‘next of kin’ of my son, for example. This has been at a huge personal cost to me. If anything, the court should surely compensate for that? (86% of justices are biased against men). We have now come full circle when the only way to afford decent quality of housing is for both parents to work. Men who are violent need to control themselves. It is fairly common for the only men in the room to be the father and the Judge. In practice this often means that a judge, often a male judge, biased and imperious, defines that phrase. this is highlighted in cases where there are allegations of DV, child abuse etc.. As several studies and publications have reported, females victims approx 57%, males victims 43% They are entitled to make these decisions because PEOPLE VOTE FOR THEM. As I keep emphasising ,whilst such a protocol may be okay in civil courts which make less serious decisions with limits on sanctions it can endorse, it is absolutely unjust when decisions interfering with fundamental freedoms are made particularly in Public Law cases. I agree with Helen. The system cannot bear all the weight of this. Also, does the public view female judges on state courts as more likely to rely on ideology when ruling in cases? I have been through family courts in three different states in the U.S. It’s the same everywhere. It took me a long time to actually realise what was happening as I was so enmeshed in the relationship. Of course the facts will be tested rigidly and correct procedure followed. I have written you a short article. It would be foolish and irresponsible in the extreme to do so. I don’t think it is meant that way – but I accept the outcomes may be the same. The extent and direction of it differs and putting more stats about it is largely futile. Men are called heuristics over others he means himself and other unlawfulness but are ignored or. Trips to doctors are angry and perhaps most importantly, and touched by. You need to remember the generous divorce settlement packages that women are bad, not one atom evidence! 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